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Men's Health-The Bottom Line!
the safety net
Safety behaviors are things we do to protect ourselves from harm or threat. It decreases confidence in the long run because it leaves you with the message that you need protection and would be unsafe without it. Using safety behaviors has an effect that it succeeded in preventing the threat being realized. A lot of the disasters we fear are more imagined than real.
No experiments are likely to reveal exactly what other people think of you. The predictions of other's thoughts are hard to tackle whereas predictions about their behaviors are easier to detect. Signs may not be objectively clear, which leaves too much room to give an anxiety-driven opinion, usually meaningless.
How do we give up safety behaviors? Think of a situation which you would like to be different. What are you willing to do differently? Aim to find out if the danger you perceive is real or imagined. Ask yourself, what is the threat? Identify it, expose it, and eradicate it for good. Build your confidence in your ability to adapt to the situations that arise and respond to them in a way that feels right for you!