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Men's Health-The Bottom Line!
Bullying is repeated aggressive behavior intended to hurt another psychologically or physically. It is characterized by behaving in a certain way to gain an advantage or control over a weaker person. The individual recruits lieutenants whom are willing to assist in the bullying activities and they are usually peer groups who promote/instigate the bully's actions by destroying peer acceptance and friendships, known as "exclusion."
The bully holds an authoritarian personality with a strong need to control and dominate. It is employed consciously/unconsciously and done as a result of selfishly rationalized notions of its appropriation, utility, and self empowerment. From coercion to abuse, they intimidate or aggressively dominate others, usually towards a particular target, known as their "narcissistic supply."
They harass the weak to compensate for some sick need for validation at the expense of someone's volition. Some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic where they hide behind this behavior to conceal their own shame/anxiety and/or to boost their own self-esteem and hidden agendas, while belittling others; in this, the abuser (bully) feels empowered and feeds off of this addictive energy.
Bullies are emotionally unstable with insecure attachments with family, peers, and hold ineffective discipline to environmental factors, not just social. Some are psychologically strong and have high social standing amongst peers or at least they desire it, and if not, it could breed jealousy and envy towards their targets, increasing the intensity level.
The indignant bully thinks more highly of him/herself than he/she ought (pride), then frequently become easily offended by the criticisms, non-acceptance (they hate to be ignored), and lack of deference. They react to this as a form of disrespect with underlying tendencies of violence. Once it gets into the stage of threatening or insinuating a threat, it has gone past competition, to becoming even more aggressively/violently dominant, where the line is drawn between social/physical power and conflict.
The motives of the bully are envy and resentment, with a tremendous level of low self-esteem along with fragile and inflated egos, which causes them to become offended and indignant. It is because they seek for their behaviours to be justified, excused, and validated, so when it becomes invalidated and ineffective, he/she acts out all the more.
In conclusion, it is the bully's ability to create the illusion that he/she has the "support" of the majority--which is designed to instill fear of "speaking out." Unless the bully mentality is effectively challenged at the onset or in its early stages, it becomes an accepted norm within the group and the victims internalize the abuse, which leads to countless suicides; I advocate for myself and my daughter on anti-bullying and it is very effective when it is tackled head on, speak up, it could save many lives!