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Excessive Attention Seeking
Emotional blackmail is to infringe upon one's right to be emotionally free. All humans require some level of attention and getting attention is necessary for life's vital enterprises and can be the difference between life and death. The Pareto Principle provides that 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes (80-20 rule). Not getting adequate attention, especially as a child can threaten the quality and sustainability of life. Children need it for growth and development and if it continues to go unfulfilled, it carries over into adulthood.
In infant and early childhood development, the brain's wiring responds to the trauma of neglect. Extreme attention seekers go to unhealthy lengths that are driven by emotional desperation. Excessive attention seeking is not a character flaw, it is a post traumatic, knee jerk reaction to the lack of proper care taking in childhood. The developing brain observes its environment and wires itself to "survival" modes and "defense mechanisms."
Hypothalamic Remodeling is one of the consequences of neglect. The hypothalamus is smaller and has fewer receptors for serotonin and other neurochemicals. Drama gets attention and it stands out. It causes the pituitary glands and hypothalamus to secrete endorphins, which are pain suppressing and pleasure inducing compounds (which heroin and opium mimic-explains many drug addictions).
The drama eases the anxiety of wanting more attention than one is getting. Drama uses the same "mechanisms" in the brain as opiates, people easily become addicted to drama. Like any addiction, you build up a tolerance that continuously requires more, so you can get the same neurological effect. This type of person needs more and more crisis to get the small thrill, where drama as a drug feels good and rewarding...(psychologytoday.com/Excessive Attention Seeking and Drama Addiction, Bill Gordon, PhD, Nov. 5, 2015).