Emotional Intelligence v. Emotional Schemas
(EI) Emotional Intelligence embraces a set of mental skills that enable one to know and control his/her own emotions, recognize and effectively respond to emotional states of other people.
Social Change: to be present, you gain the extra flow. Your normal is someone else's exceptional, which shows up in a place that makes no sense.
Speak to what is not working and to what to disconnect from. Turn it into what you had in mind and sometimes you have to look like a fool to get what you want--go back to the bare bones basics.
Conflict between thinking and feeling makes things complicated. It's the struggle between logic and emotion. Real world feelings and instincts are major influences on behavior.