Emotional Intelligence v. Emotional Schemas
At the most accomplished moments, we feel the effects of envy. Great moments are spoiled by small minded people, the little people who possess big commentary.
The gifts of the Divine does not come in beautifully wrapped packages, but provide the soil for our growth, enlightenment, and blessing.
Falls give us the energy to propel ourselves to higher vibrational levels. How we respond to adversities determine who we become. Get your own house in order so you can be centered within to bring order and command to what you are creating. It enables you to gain information from within to assist from a place of order within.
Have patience and focus for double earth energy. Take care of home and emotional well-being. Set intentions for self improvement vs selfishness, especially learning and health. Stay on the high road when dealing with difficult people; balance the ying and yang within.
The way a conflict/discussion begins determines how it is going to end. Two people can fight often and still maintains a healthy relationship while other's can't.
It is not about how many bouts, but your technique and approach. Starting a conversation gently is the key to it ending well, but not always--remind yourself when to stop and recognize your limits.
Stress hormones inhibit higher cognitive functions like impulse control and attention. When we feel threatened, it's fight or flight; always get in your "me" time to cool down.
(Real Simple/January 2013)
We often look for happiness through relationships, money, and material things. These can bring a degree of temporary relief, but happiness is circumstantial and based on what is happening at the moment.
Joy is our true heart's desire and it is eternal, despite our current circumstances; God is the only one that can bring us true joy, then we are able to share it with others.
To seek means to crave, pursue, and go after something sought. The Lord desires for us to live with His joy and to be permanently and consistently satisfied. This comes from spending quality time with Him and studying his word, talking to Him in prayer and sitting quietly in his presence for the answers you seek.
The truth is what we really need to live a joyful life, but you have to come to a place of the acceptance of the truth...the choice is ours to make...(joycemeyer.org)
No more emotional meltdowns
Ailments Masked As Stress
(Oprah.com/March 2015/Krystnell Storr)
Making changes in your thinking and daily habits can also make a huge difference in how you feel. Notice small signals and counteract them mindfully. Where do you find yourself getting the most irritated? Take a pause and evaluate it, acknowledge that you're feeling stressed. Eventually the mindfulness will become automatic and keep you from feeling overwhelmed.
Some outgoing types are better able to resist the downward spiral of burnout (Arnold Bakker, Ph.D); a dose of quiet time can make you feel less spent.
Perfectionists may be burnout prone, too much multi-tasking and wanting to take on more, will make one mentally exhausted (Ron Epstein, M.D.). Recognize when perfectionism isn't helping and give yourself permission to back off.
Hitting "pause" can give you the space, energy, and tools you need to figure out what to do next. Make small commitments to do things for yourself, which can be good for your state of mind. Share positive experiences with those you trust. Society has conditioned us to thinking that we have to always wear the "game on" face. Making mindful choices can be a huge challenge, (redbookmag.com).
A stress response that is triggered by someone else's behavior. We may see another's behavior as a threat to our environment and become aware of the stress that others carry around us. It sends a clear signal that we too should be worried.
Behavior that begets second hand stress may not be inherently stressful. Second hand stress can be produced by our interpretations of other's behavior. Communication of feelings is the key to stress relief. We use more energy protecting ourselves during stressful situations and become more fatigued, carry our irritability or distracted thinking into the home/workplace where it negatively impacts our interpersonal relationships.
We become unaware of the impact this has on others, the behaviors are causing others to feel stressed indirectly. Victims of second hand stress have the same characteristics as spreaders of stress, (stresscoach.com)
Menopause & The Skin
In the teen years, skin is plagued with excess oil (for some) and most midlife women struggle with their skin; for some, acne is still a problem.
The primary skin change related to declining estrogen is the reduction of collagen. Collagen is the main supportive protein of the skin's bone, cartilage, and connective tissue. When skin and mucous membranes lose their resilience due to reduction in collagen thickness, a transformation in appearance occurs; it is due to changes in collagen and blood vessels.
The metamorphosis attributed to aging are wrinkling, drying, thinning, mutations in pigment, and reduced elasticity. As we age, our thinning blood vessel walls lead to increased bruising; healing time is doubled because of the slowed epidermis turn over rate.
The skin reveals more lines and less tone as we age because the underlying support has been reduced. Loss of collagen and elasticity is evident in "expression" lines. Decreased thickness means fewer oil glands in the skin--less oil, more dryness. Fewer oil glands and dry skin make us feel itchy. Some menopausal women feel plagued by the feeling of something crawling on their skin and need adjustments in the way they are being touched, e.g. sensitive to touch/hypersensitivity, (The Menopause Manager, Mary Ann Mayo & Joseph L. Mayo, M.D. 1998).
The next time you wrestle with an issue, take a snooze. A study from the University of California-Berkley showed that REM stage helps put problems and emotions in perspective. Brain scans revealed people who slept between viewings of disturbing images were less upset than those who stayed awake.
During the period of slumber, memories are processed while stress neurochemicals are suppressed; it helps remove the sharp edges from emotional experiences (Els van der Helm, the study's lead author). She advised to aim for plenty of shut-eye during the rough patches (Wholeliving.com/May 2012).