Emotional Intelligence v. Emotional Schemas
A stress response that is triggered by someone else's behavior. We may see another's behavior as a threat to our environment and become aware of the stress that others carry around us. It sends a clear signal that we too should be worried.
Behavior that begets second hand stress may not be inherently stressful. Second hand stress can be produced by our interpretations of other's behavior. Communication of feelings is the key to stress relief. We use more energy protecting ourselves during stressful situations and become more fatigued, carry our irritability or distracted thinking into the home/workplace where it negatively impacts our interpersonal relationships.
We become unaware of the impact this has on others, the behaviors are causing others to feel stressed indirectly. Victims of second hand stress have the same characteristics as spreaders of stress, (stresscoach.com)