It is how little you see yourself opposed to how big you "think" the other person is. The secret warfare of hiding behind a high priced lifestyle, trying to cash emotional paychecks with empty accounts is equivalent to writing checks where there is no deposit; insufficient funds.
Pressure bursts pipes. How many are looking to you vs. giving to you, "I" "I", "Me" "Me"; where there is pressure, there is no release, for example, more is coming at you than coming to you, you're feeding more than you are being fed and always on duty. We are human for God's sake, we're tortured at times in front of other people and they don't even see the nails being driven into you; heros are human.
It helps the recipient and takes away from the giver, the virtue goes out and we often don't recognize other blessings (see, hear, taste, smell, walk, etc) because of one or more areas in our lives that we feel doesn't measure up. How bitter and scornful are the rejected who missed their turn, however, the deeper the discouragement, the better the message-the mess to the message.
During Jesus' reign, the Garden of Gethsamane was a place of pressing, the crushing of olives to oil, spiritually speaking, a place of anointing, but not without cost. So much was poured out to others from Jesus than was given to Him in return-a total deficit. It was also a place of pain on public display-humanity was at stake. When the pressure is over, the oil will flow and deliverance, strength, and power will emerge again.
If you ever find yourself wanting what someone else has, first ask for the misery, pain, loss, agony, and suffering they had to go through to get it, then ask yourself if you still want it! "Carest not that we perish?," screaming with no voice.