Intentions are not enough. Sometimes we naively believe that we are some how exempt from problems in our love life and we often have that fantastic illusion of living happily ever after. Although it is not an impossibility, I learned in situations such as this, that it is often the "idea" or the thing more-so than the person.
Reality hits and it bites, after that, daily life takes over. It emerges back to the men expecting the women to think and react as they do and the women expecting the men to feel and behave as they do( I'm so guilty of this). We ask ourselves, how does this happen? Why does this happen? Why does this happen to us? To answer these questions, our greatest minds develop brilliant and complex philosophical and psychological models; yet, the old patterns return.
Love lives and love dies. Each year, millions of couples join together in love, then painfully separate because they "lost that loving feeling." Some are able to sustain love and get married, some marry for convenience, some are happily married, and some are so miserable in their marriages.
Most stay together out of loyalty and obligation or fear of starting over. Most are not able to grow in love; when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences, love has a fighting chance to grow (Men are From Mars and Women are from Venus, John Gray, Ph.D (1992)).