Emotional Intelligence v. Emotional Schemas
Poison "Envy"-The Identity Crisis
Most of us fear others so much so that we work to avoid any degree of intimacy or closeness. We are adament to prevent placing ourselves in a vulnerable position and become highly skilled at hiding our fears, especially when things seem/are out of our control.
We fall victim to the "martyr' roles and act helpless to avoid confrontation or accountability. We place ourselves in a subservient position and judge others harshly; we tend to believe that we are not acceptable enough to live a life with relationships, purpose, and happiness.
Our co-dependencies worsen as our fears and shame tend to overwhelm us as well, with that, we control and avoid others all the more. Many of us seek "false gods" and numb our pain/feelings with alcohol, drugs, food, sex, and yes, even work; these often turn into chronic addictions and compound our problems, providing no peace, nor freedom.
Whether we position ourselves as "better-than" or "less-than," as a controller or avoider, we behave in self-centered ways and all equality is lost. Come out of the "Identity Crisis" and own up to your differences, (Co-Dependents Anonymous, First Edition, 1995).